I’m a firm believer in the idea that our thoughts control our lives as well as our outcomes.
While I’m not someone that necessarily spouts off “The Secret” style ideals 24/7, there definitely is something to be said for visualizing and dwelling on positive thoughts and putting those thoughts out into the universe instead of spewing negativity or accepting negative thoughts as your reality.
However- problems arise when you have an over-anxious and hyper-critical mind. It tends to throw a wrench into the system.
If there was one thought that I need to get rid in my consciousness, and that everyone else needs to get rid of too, it would be this one:
As someone who enjoys creating original content and writing, and who spends lots of free time working on my blog or at least thinking about it, I find myself thinking far too many times than I’d like to admit, “What if nobody cares?”
This thought comes up a lot. And I’m not sure why.
I’ll go to post something on social media- “Nobody Cares!” And I’ll stop. I find myself having a conversation with someone and I start getting a liiiiitle too deep– “Nobody Cares!”
Where does this come from? And more importantly- who gives a flying flip if “they” care or not? I’m not creating things for people that don’t care about me, right? I’m not living my life for the approval of others, right?
I know I can’t be the only one. It’s easy to get wrapped up in this way of thinking when you create anything. Writing a screenplay, painting a picture, showcasing your photography, selling your handmade crafts, or just sharing a selfie- the thought of “Nobody Cares” undermines your own work and what you want to share and bring into the world.
If you are creating something, there’s a reason for it. If you feel compelled to share something, there’s a reason.
Anytime anyone reaches out to me and shares that they enjoy or care about this blog or any other endeavor I do in any way- I’m truly humbled by it and I’m always taken aback- , because honestly I feel like I’m yelling in an empty room sometimes. And it’s not even for the lack of feedback- it’s because of this negative internal monologue that wants to hold me back and make me feel like my thoughts aren’t worthy of being shared.
Even if you don’t think people care about what you’re sharing with the world, whatever if may be, keep doing it. Because they do care. And those that don’t? Well, you’re not creating for those people anyway. If someone doesn’t need to hear your message then they just don’t need to hear it. And that’s fine.
This post isn’t saying you need to go barrage your friends and family with every waking thought or idea, or to take over every conversation with the things you’re working on- it’s just to help quiet that nagging voice inside that tells you that your work isn’t worthy of others to care about.
Don’t let negative thoughts invade your mind and take over, preventing you from sharing your vision or message to the world. Because if you’re investing time in something YOU care about, more than likely others will care about it, too.
[photo by h+d photography]
Love, love, love.
And honestly, love just about every single thing you produce. I DO care 🙂
Thanks so much, Jennifer! 🙂 I really appreciate it! <3
Janine, this is awesome. I read this at such a good time. This is the kind of Monday Motivation I really needed! Thank you so much…it can sometimes be such a struggle to be a blogger (or share on social media in general) when you feel like no one cares and you’re whispering in a crowd of busy people. But you’re right – there are people out there who care!
Thanks, Chelsea. I’m so glad it helped you! 🙂 It can definitely be tough to be someone who creates content on the internet but trusting yourself and what you’re putting out there is key! And if it’s meaningful to YOU- there is bound to be someone else that will also connect.
BTW- checked out your blog, need to make some of those recipes! They look delish!